To be left aside.

Not being a priority.

Always be the second option.

Not feeling seen.

Many people carry this silent pain of not having been chosen — by parents, by partners, by friends.

And the effect of this goes far beyond sadness.

This experience creates an internal pattern: that of thinking that, to deserve attention or love, you have to make an effort all the time, prove your worth, please, anticipate what the other person wants.

Over time, living like this becomes exhausting.

It generates anxiety, low self-esteem, attempts to save the other person and relationships where you give yourself beyond the limit... hoping that, this time, someone will finally choose you.

In my work, I help you recognize this wound of abandonment.

Not to blame anyone, but so that you can choose yourself for the first time in a conscious way.

Healing this does not mean closing your heart.

It means making room for more real connections, where you no longer have to lose yourself to be loved.

With love, Sitara Ju