Before the opening comes the deep rooting in the body.
Before vulnerability, the recovery of internal security.

There's a common misconception on the path to self-discovery: believing that healing means exposing yourself more, feeling more, talking more, opening up more. When this happens without a solid inner foundation, the result is rarely integration. More often than not, it generates... activation, emotional confusion, exhaustion, and withdrawal.

Opening it without an internal floor doesn't allow it to expand.
It creates disorganization.

True openness arises when we find a safe space within ourselves, capable of supporting what we feel.

Internal security: a bodily state, not a concept.

Internal security is neither positive thinking nor emotional control.
It is a concrete bodily experience.

It manifests itself as:

• presence
• inner contour
• stability
• ability to stay with oneself

When the nervous system reaches this state, something essential reorganizes itself:
Feeling ceases to be a threat and becomes an experience.

In this space, we are able to navigate intense emotions, profound activations, and delicate movements without losing ourselves within them. Not because we stop feeling, but because We have somewhere to return to within ourselves.

When openness arises from emotional regression.

Without grounding, openness often arises from a regressed emotional state. In that place, what we seek is not encounter—it is... external salvation.

We approach others by asking them, often unconsciously, to:

• sustain us
• validate us
• welcome us
• complete us

We try to give the bond a task that belongs to our internal foundation.

And here a delicate point arises: we are often asking the other person to Accept in us what we are not yet able to accept.

This dynamic creates a heavy relational field, marked by emotional urgency, excessive expectation, and fear of rejection. Even without rationally understanding it, the other person feels this weight—and tends to withdraw.

Thus, we reinforce the painful experience of Seeking connection and encountering rejection., Not because we are too many, but because we are offering ourselves. without sufficient internal foundation.

Opening with indoor floor: meeting and exchanging unique gifts.

When openness stems from internal security, everything changes.

We no longer seek to be saved.
We are looking for The meeting and the possibility of sharing our unique gifts.

Vulnerability ceases to be exposure and becomes living presence.
There is room to feel, to name, to share — without losing sight of the center.

This is the territory of emotional maturity:

• opening with contour
• sensitivity with structure
• autonomous delivery

In this state, we can love without abandoning ourselves, desire without losing ourselves, create without collapsing, and connect without dissolving our identity.

When we have somewhere to return to, we can go further.

It is inner security that allows us to navigate intense emotions, deep relationships, and transformative processes without threatening our integrity.

Not because we stop feeling fear, sadness, or insecurity — but because We learn to navigate these states by remaining present.

When we know where to return to, we can go further.

This is perhaps one of the greatest paradoxes of healing:

The more rooted we are, the freer we become to open up.