On the outside, he appears calm, practical, even indifferent.

But inside, there is a body on constant alert, trying to survive the discomfort of feeling.

Many men have learned that emotion is weakness.

That feeling is dangerous.

So when life touches places of pain, they close.

Stop talking.

They stop looking into each other's eyes.

They move away from those they love most — not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of inner resources.

This apparent indifference is often a form of protection.

Behind it, there is often a fear of rejection, shame for not knowing how to act, and a deep desire to be understood, but not knowing where to start.

In my work with men, I help open up space for these layers to reveal themselves safely.

No pressure.

No judgments.

And, most importantly, without forcing a process that needs to happen in the body’s and heart’s own time.

Thawing is not weakness.

It is an act of courage.

With love, Sitara Ju